Can I Have A “No-Kids” Policy at My Wedding
While it might seem like an offensive thing to say on an invitation, that you are having a “No-Kids at Our Wedding Policy”. However, it is often appreciated, by your family and friends who have small children can use it as an excuse to get a sitter and enjoy a night out.
First, so how do you go above telling your guests that there will be no kids at your wedding?
“No Kids Policy at Weddings”
Make sure your immediate families know of your “No-Kids at Our Wedding Policy" as as you’ve made the firm decision, so that they can share that information with anyone they would like to invite. If you have friends that have kids, become proactive and have the conversation with them early on letting them know that unfortunately they won't be able to bring their kids. This way you give them as much time as possible to make arrangements for childcare.
Secondly, address the invitations clearly.
You should clearly state on your invitation when you address them that you are only including the names of those that you are inviting. For example, only address your invitation to “Mr. & Mrs. Robert Stewart” and not the entire family, “The Stewart Family.” This is a simple way to drive home the message that their children are not invited, because they were not mentioned.
Thirdly, Give guests the 411 on your website.
If you have a website, include a brief mention of the fact that there will not be children at the wedding and reception so that guests are informed in advance. If you hold back this information, it could confuse guests and prevent them from coordinating a sitter in time.
Lastly, A “No-Kids Policy”, at your wedding needs to be an all-or-nothing rule.
Where I find many couples get in trouble, is they allow those closest to them to bring their children or they incorporate flower girls and ring bearers in the ceremony. This can quickly hurt the feelings of well-meaning guests who made sacrifices to be a part of your big day.
The Final Note: Remember, you must be consistent and not make exceptions.
Till next time, Cynthia
Cynthia Farrar, Owner, and Venue Director of The Orchards Event Venue never knew when she purchased and began hosting weddings on the property how being a part of people’s weddings would change her life, and the lives of couples and families she is blessed to work with. She understands their anticipation: the moment couples are engaged; wheels start spinning with beautiful and memorable ideas. Her job is to assist in bringing those visions to life, along with her team who work side-by-side with each couple, every step of the way.
She finds her position at The Orchards Event Venue to be very gratifying and heartwarming. Every couple is unique, and they bring their own personalities to their wedding, and she leaves every wedding with special memories to cherish a lifetime.